Ancestor Reverence is a lost framework. We are programmed with outdated software that tells us that we must do the same thing our tribe does in order to feel safe and secure. Just think of how awkward a situation it was for ancient ancestors to deviate from tribal norms. In most cases that ancestor would be ostracized at best and put to death at worse. We have this important programming to keep us safe! However, we no longer need to subscribe to this type of behavior. The Universe wants you to deviate from this programming and begin to pursue your authentic self by any means necessary. Most healers and Intuitives are the first ones that are tasked with clearing bloodline trauma. Intuitive beings are more susceptible to the subtle energies that are around us at all times. We are also the ones that are the most nurturing and we are programmed to give more than we receive! So how do we eliminate the people-pleasing gene so that we can live an authentic life free of the care of what others think?
First, let's check to see if you're a people pleaser . . .
Trying to make others happy at your own expense is a poor way to spend your time and energy. If you’re looking out for everyone else, who has your best interests at heart? You might think you’re trying to be nice (see the etymology of nice below), but that’s not the full story.
People-pleasers feel a need to make others happy, but the motive isn’t entirely altruistic. People-pleasers are attempting to avoid confrontation. They also feel important by helping others. When they do something nice for another person, they feel good about themselves. Meanwhile, their own lives are unraveling.
They also lose the respect of others. When you don’t respect your time or your needs, no one else will either. You’re training people to treat you badly.
Avoid pleasing others and please yourself for a change:
The gains from attempting to please everyone will never outweigh the costs. Learn to get validation from yourself. You don’t have to please others to feel good about yourself. Give your own needs your attention. You deserve as much as anyone else.
Let's Work Together To eliminate the trauma of people pleasing in your dna code.